What about when things don’t work out?

It’s been creeping up on me again... that default to working out the how. 

The need to control.

The need to see how the pieces come together.

A focus on time.

On figuring it out.

On trying to control what it looks like.

Then I get a nudge from the Spirit Squad. A kind of series of flashbacks when I see all the times things didn’t go to plan and then the magic that unfolded. 

When the outcome was even more magical that I ever imagined.

Some examples...

1. In my twenties really wanting to meet the one. Having a clear idea of what he would be like, look like, the kind of job he would have. How I would meet him. That guy did appear but did absolutely nothing for me. In fact he ended up finishing with me 3 months later and I fell into a pit of self wallowing.

Then roll on 2 months later. I go on a work trip to New York purely to have fun. All 25 people from the company are put on the same floors apart from me and a guy who is 6 years younger than me. We weirdly have a room next to each other.

He turns out to be the love of my life. 

2. We decide we want a bigger flat in London. I get stressed at the how and start drawing up PowerPoint plans for different areas and costs (yes seriously.) I fill days with visiting different areas. We try and buy in a different location. It goes wrong.

Then 12 weeks later before we are heading up north with our 4 week old daughter. A letter from our landlord, they are hiking up our rent so high we need to be out in 6 weeks. My stress levels being heavily pregnant go through the roof.

On the way up north I stop to have a coffee with a friend to tell her about it. We fall in love with the area. Both our bosses say we can work from home. We move 8 weeks later (on a whim) and end up in an area we never knew that brings us so much happiness.

3. I start studying abundance. I decide I want a pay rise at work. I work out exactly how it will happen. I take on more, speak to my bosses. Doors start shutting, stress grows, it just never seems to go my way. Then shingles comes, a sign off from work and I stop. I slow. I surrender. Then it comes through loud and clear that it’s time to follow my dreams

Roll on 4 years and I am happier and more abundant that I ever dreamed possible.

So, let this be a reminder. 

Our job is to lean into...

⭐ Soul

⭐ Desire

⭐ Guidance 

It is not to control.

Hand it over and go with the flow.

Trust you’ve been heard.

You are always heard.

Just get out of your own way and let the Universe do her thing.

Then you will see that what didn’t go the way you wanted, offers something much more magical in return.